I was reading the other day about arguments. What I read was that you cannot win an argument with reason, you have to understand where the person is coming from. I wasn't sure how I felt about this at first. It seemed to me that if that were the case you could never resolve certain conflicts. I have thought about it for a few days and believe I have come to a conclusion.
There are some things that people will always fight about, but if you understand where the other person gets their ideas from it is easier to know what to say.
This may mean that you abandon the discussion having resolved nothing. For example at this moment in time I do not believe that talking to certain family members about my belief system would be beneficial for either of us. The best I can do is meditate on them and gain an understanding of why they are who they are.
This may seem depressing or like all is lost with certain people. It is actually quite comforting it leads to knowing that most people don't mean to be hurtful, they just know no other way.
If you understand the other person you may learn a way to communicate with them that will bring joy to both of your lives.
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